Transcribed from a talk given by Rhondell

We're IN this world but not OF it.

Iím usually flexible about what I talk about so I listen to what people have to say and decide
well maybe thatís the thing to talk about. So weíre going to talk about two worlds for a minute.
We all exist with them. Weíve all heard the old statement ďWeíre in this world but not of it.Ē
So letís try to see what that comes out with and maybe we can make it kind of worthwhile.

The Manmade World | The Real World of Living Beings

So weíll split down the middle and weíll put a line across and we've got the Manmade
World over here, the manmade world, and we all live in it, everyday of the week. And
we have the Real World of Living Beings. And we are OF that world, we are living beings.
And if we get those confused it can probably cause us a lot of unnecessary aggravation.
And if thereís anything I donít like itís aggravation. So if I can just miss some of them it
helps a whole lot.

Manmade World: Machines, Ideas, Ideals, Standards, Games

So the manmade world is the world of machines, ideas, ideals, standards, few other things
maybe, and games. So we can make machines and we set standards for them, right John?
And if they donít, weíd scrap them. Or holler at somebody, real loud. I was down in Johnís
shop the other day and some of the machines werenít going according to standards.
They making noises, and they werenít supposed to make noises. And so that hassled a
little bit. Caused a whole slowdown. So we can set the standard for a machine and if it donít
fit it, thereís something wrong with it. Human beings are not machines, theyíre living beings.


We can set up an idea, I can invent on and I can go out and propagate it a little bit and give it
to lots of people, I might even set me up a school somewhere and put out these ideas, and you
could come study, and if you, Iíll give you an examination and if you donít pay it back exactly
as I wrote it, Iíll flunk you. And it donít mean a thing. The idea may not more be true than the
man in the moon. But, at least we set it up.


Ideals we find thereís a use for. You have an ideal as to how far from the property line your
building is to be put. You have an ideal of how fast everybodyís to drive on the highway. No-
bodyís paying much attention to it, but the police take it serious. And nobody else does very
much. And we can have those ideals, we can have a jillion other ideals of what ought to be,
what should be, and what so forth. Now as long as it relates to non-humans itís kind of halfway
valid, but the minute you put it on humans itís not so valid.


And we can set up a standard for something. If I want to buy a pair of shoes I can, or even
order them, I say a certain size, and they come in, I can wear them, they feel all right, I can walk
in tell a man and tell him I want a size so-and-so suit and he hands it to me and I put it on and
go away. I can go in and look at the numbers on a shirt and say Iíll take that shirt. Iím not going
to try it on. And itíll fit when I get there because itís built according to standards.


And of course thereís many games that we play. We can play baseball, we can play football,
we can play business games, we can play marriage games, and most people forget those are
games and they donít realize they have all the things of a game.

Players, Rules, Officials, Rewards or Penalties

A game has, number one, players. And then it has rules, or itís not a game. Then it has officials
of the game, and then it has rewards or penalties. Donít call them punishment, theyíre merely
penalties. So letís take a player playing football. He plays according to the rules and thereís a
man out there with a whistle thatís official, and if he donít play according to the rules he gives
him a penalty. He gets too many of them, he throws him out of the game. If he plays the game
according, he might get a certain reward, he gets glory anyway. If heís in a professional game,
why he gets a lot of money for it. Letís take traffic game, thatís a fairly common one and most
of us play it. Thereís rules to the traffic game and we all know them pretty well. Right? Weíve
heard of them, anyway. Bill, youíve even heard of them, havenít you? Yep  (laughter). And
then thereís officials out there that go along and check up to see whether youíre playing the
game. Now he drives a little car with flashing lights on top of it and if you donít play the game
according to the rules, you get a penalty. If you play the game according to the rules you get
a reward, you get to keep your driverís license.

And we could go on to business, and thereís gobs of those rules already set out for us, and
officials, the same with marriage and so on down the line. Family games and so forth. Now in
some of them, you can, the players can more or less write the rules as they go. But itís well
that somebody knows the rules. If they donít know the rules, how are they going to play the
game? They donít know.

Don't Assume Others Know the Rules If You Made Them Up

So maybe it would be well if we say weíre playing the family game, those things do exist,
you know. Thereís certain rules and maybe the members of that, the players of that particular
game, can somewhat write the rules. But itís no reason to assume that everybody knows them
because you thought of them. You have to kind of spread those around. Even the baseball
rules are written in a book, football rules are written in a book, golf rules are written in a book,
traffic games are written in a book, they even give you one so you can go down and see if you
know it. So, it might be that if we put a little examination like a driverís license, you got a book,
you read through it, and then see if you get a license to play that game. Okay?

To My Advantage to Play According to the Rules

And it would definitely be to my advantage to play the game according to the rules. But before I
could play any game according to the rules I better know the rules. One time Dennis and I went
to take a board exam in, being registered reps in selling stocks and bonds. They have a whole
bunch of rules. You been through that? They got a whole bunch of rules. You had to read them,
is that right? And if you donít play that game according to the rules, hmm? They get real nasty
about it, is that right? So, they gave you an exam to see if you had really read the rules and know
about them, is that right? So now you have no excuse if you donít play the game according to the
rules, is that right? Right. Goodbye license.

Penalties Are Not Punishment

And maybe other penalties goes along with itóno punishment, understand, just penalties.


And if you do play the game according to the rules, it has certain rewards thatís very interesting,
is that right? Good money-making scheme. So, you can have the game you can play. But you have
to know the rules.

People Think Everyone Knows the Rules in Relationships--They Don't, Necessarily

Now I think that when most people have some human relationship they assume that every-
body knows the rules. Even though you made them up as you went. We assume that they
know them. I have seen people scolding two-year-old kids and one-year-old kids, uh,
assuming that that kid knew all the rules. We were sitting over here in the coffee ship
yesterday afternoon and there was a lady got very upset at one kid for hugging another little
kid and another mother got all upset at a littleónot more than eighteen months oldóbecause
it was wandering around a little bit. Now that kid was supposed to have known the rules. 
Mama knew them, I guess, but the kid didnít. Mama didnít know the rules very well from
what she named the kid. She named a pretty little blond kid Cherokee. Can you imagine that?
I have a friend who has a little girl, he named her Jebediah. And I told him when that kid was
twelve years old sheíd be a murderer, sheíd shoot himósheís getting close, and I still think
Iím right. Jebediah for a pretty little girl. Can you imagine that?

People May or May Not Know What's to Their Advantage

So, maybe thereís some rules about things like that once in a while you know. So all these
things that we donít think of, that people know or donít know the rules, we feel they should
know them and play them, even though theyíre this high and they grew up without ever
hearing what the rules were, what the rewards were or what the penalties were. So when most
every person in the world is intelligent enough to try to do what they see as being to their
advantageónow, what they see as being to their advantage may look to you like they didnít
know nothiní. See, I couldnít see itíd ever be to my advantage to harm another person. But I
know a lot of people who feel itís to their advantage to cheat, and to steal and to do a whole
bunch of things. They haven'í learned a bunch of rules that Iíve learned somewhere along the
way. They just donít see that. I see that some people feel that itís to their advantage to stick up
for their rights.  Iíve never seen that one work very well.  So I donít consider thatís to my

When We Understand Games, We Can Then See What's To Our Advantage

So when we begin to see that weíre in this world and that it does have standards, it does have
ideas, it does have ideals, and we have many mechanical situations, we can begin to think
of what is to my advantage. And certainly maybe these people that start out as new guests
at the party are at least entitled to be told or taught and maybe given a little examination to
see if they know the rules of the game. Remember, they came in as privileged invited guests
and given a couple of slaves to look after them, and a few things, but they werenít taught the
rules of the game as a basic thing. They donít know what it is. And maybe every once in a
while the rules get changed.

Every Person on Earth Is Unique

Now in the real world of living beings there are no two of which are alike. No two living
beings are exactly alike. writes on board) Now how would you set up a standard for any-
thing that isnít any, two or more exactly alike. You canít set it up.

We have to recognize that each person is a unique work of art. Some of them, admittedly,
are cartoons, but (laughter) theyíre still works of art out here, you know.

There's No Way to Get Along Unless You Know the Rules

So, unless they can get some information as to how to live in this man-made world they
wonít know. Thereís no way to get along in it unless you learn some of the rules. Whatever
those rules may be. "Standards" belongs over in the man-made world, itís not right, itís not
wrong, or anything else. It simply is. When thereís no two alike there can be no standards.

Judging People Is to See Them As Machines

So then you couldnít set up and say this one is bad, this oneís good, etc. But man being, living,
in the manmade world, has decided to set up standards for people and we built great
institutions around setting standards. As though man were a mere machine.


We have the medical arts, for instance, which is a great game that goes on, and they set up
a standard of health, weíll say here. And they set a standard for it and it doesn't fit any
person in the world.

There is a standard set up but it doesnít fit anybody. Itís an average over a whole bunch of
people. And if any one of you go in to be examined tomorrow by a member of the medical
arts to see if youíre totally healthy or normal, weíll put ďnormalĒ there (on the board) also,
thatís something, and I compare you to a bunch of averages, how to you come out?
[Several in group: abnormal.] Youíll be abnormal in some way, wonít you?
Now youíre a patient! (laughter)

Normal and Abnormal

I went to school and studied this stuff, it sounded pretty good to me, they told me that the
first two years I was in school I would study the norm. The normal, so I would recognize
the abnormal when I got into clinical situations in the last three or four years. So, that
sounded pretty good and I studied all these norms we had mannequins and we had charts
and we had drawings, and we had books, with all kinds of tables in them. I learned them
diligently. And then one day they set me out in front of a person who walked in. He didnít
fit it! Funny old guy, he didnít fit it at all. So, immediately, I had a patient. Because he didnít
fit it. Now, there wasnít a thing in the world wrong with the old guy, at all, but he didnít fit
the norm.

So, you see, everybody in the eyes of the medical arts is a patient. Because youíre
abnormal SOME way, because you donít fit that norm.


And comes along and we have theology, thatís a good subject. In medicine they set up a
standard of ďgood.Ē Just as though you were a machine. But thereís many different
theologies, you know, lots of them. And they set up a standard of whatís good. Well, I donít
think thereís anybody in here that could fit all the standards of good there is running around.
I know some groups that set up a standard that itís good to dance. Others set up, ďOh, how
horrible that is,Ē thatís bad. I know some that set up itís about as horrible a thing as could be
in the world if you drink a cup of coffee and smoked a cigarette. Even if you did either one,
much less both. And so then, most people are bad. And if you are bad you feel guilty. Right?
And, so that can go on and on and on as to whatís good. Even the day of the week that you
pretend to be holy that day.

Power Policies

Then we have power policies. Thatís politics, I think they call that, but weíll call it power
policies. Now they tell you whatís "in." A few years ago, back about nineteen and the forties,
it was in to love the Russians and hate the Japanese. And then almost overnight, we switched it.
You love the Japanese and hate the Russians. And it was there, some people couldnít switch that
fast. So, they werenít in anymore, they were out. And so then you are, have an ďoutĒ feeling.

Big Business

And then comes along another one here, Big Business. Itís in a good deal, thatís a big one.
We said big business, not just little things that most of us get involved in. ... has the newest thing
that is pretty, your carís two years old, itís not pretty any more. Your furniture thatís three years old
is not pretty anymore unless itís a hundred years old. Then it begins to get pretty again (laughter).
By the same token, a suit you bought four or five years ago, even though itís perfectly good,
you havenít worn it hardly at all, the lapels are too wide, or the tie's too narrow or too wide, the
shirt collar is too short, or too long, the ladyís dress is too short, too long, wrong shape, the whole
bit. So pretty soon you are no longer beautiful and pretty, your house is all out of style and
everything, youíre ugly. And all the things you have are ugly and unless you go buy some new
ones this week, youíve had it!

Standards Get Changed

Not long ago, I donít know whether many of you noticed it or not, the change in how much
you should weight got changed suddenly. Ten pounds, over night. If you didnít get the ten
pounds on you was too skinny. Or, if you was up a little bit you was only three pounds
overweight, where the week before you were thirteen. So all this got changed suddenly.

What Happens When You Compare Yourself to Standards

So now, if youíre supposed to be, according to all "authorities," youíre supposed to be
normal, good, in and beautiful, and when you compare yourself to the standards, as
though you were a machine, you will come up bad, ugly, abnormal and out! (laughter)
Is that correct? Does everybody here work on that, just a little bit? Donít kid me! Youíre
down buying things so that the other things you have are out, arenít they? Theyíre not
pretty anymore, theyíre ugly! Are you always working on yourself to get made over?
Donít you make a pretty good piece of cash every week making people over? [YeahÖ ]
Fix them up, so theyíre pretty. Before they were ugly, when they came in, theyíre pretty
when they leave. But you know, no telling what happens later.

Little Joke

I was in a place to get a haircut the other day and there was a sign on the manís mirror in
front of the chair I was sitting on getting a haircut that said ďIím a beautician, not a magician.Ē
(laughter)  So, you can have one of those if you want to. Beautician, not a magician.

To Compare Yourself to Standards Is to Be Manipulated

So you see we live with these things as though we were mere machines. And we never stop
to think that all these difficulties that weíre spending on are purely made for us. You know.
If I set up a standard and you donít fit this standard, whatís wrong with you? Youíre bad,
ugly, abnormal or out, is that right? Huh? (laughter) So, thereís a story told about a man who
fell in with a bunch of thieves somewhere and they beat him up and left him in a ditch for
dead. And a doctor came by and he looked over there and he said heís already dead, no
patient any more, and he went on his way. A lawyer came by and said heís in bad shape, heís
probably drunk, so he didnít bother with him. And an official come down the road and he
looked at him and sheriff said heís just an old drunk so he left him alone. But one guy came
along and looked over on him and said, well, that guy looks like heís not feeling too good.
So he went over and did a little work on him, he had some wine with him, he had some
olive oil, so he had nothing else, he used that for medication, poured it in the guyís wounds
and he got him up and got him into town and put him in a hotel and paid the bill for a few days.
And so that man was called a neighbor, to the man who was in the ditch. Because he did
something about it. He didnít come to see if he was bad or ugly or abnormal or out, he just saw
the old boy was hurt a little bit. And somebody said that that was his neighbor. Now thatís the
only neighbor he had, was the guy that got him up and got him into town. Nobody else was his
neighbor, especially all those guys that left him there, and certainly not the guys that put him
there. You could hardly call them neighbors, you know.

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